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We know that most of you ladies and gents follow us or check us out for the advice on a healthy body and mind as well as relationships. This week I wanted to focus on male confidence, specifically when it comes to showing off your body. Recently I was looking into some articles that wrote about males confidence with their bodies. This particular article found here talks about how this person’s boyfriend had issues with his body which led to the end of their relationship.

   Now I wanted to talk about this from a guys perspective first to establish some points and issues to help understand the problem. First of all, women are not the only ones who are being bombarded to that perfect image. Men too face the issues of having the perfect toned body which creates an Adonis Complex. Other than the traditional media and advertisements, there’s the UFC movement, comparing to other guys or girls talking about their favorite attractive males which for the most part are very toned and good looking. We worry too much about not having those toned abs, defined pecks or carved pelvic lines. It makes us unhappy and we put ourselves down and it directly affects our self-esteem. From there it only negatively affects the social life and relationships a guy can have. On top of that you could also potentially harm yourself from over exercising and adding steroids to your routine. 

   What guys don’t realize or just overlook is that girls aren’t as superficial or judgmental when it comes to your bodies as you think, only you are your own worst critic. All they want is a good guy who will love them for who they are. Being active and taking care of your body is just a plus. What it all comes down to is the confidence to be comfortable in your own skin. Once you master that, life will be a lot more comfortable and simple.

   A personal example: I knew a girl who I thought wasn’t in my league. For a while I was self-conscious about my body so I didn’t really ask her out or talk to her because I thought I wasn’t enough. One day I convinced myself to ask her out and gave myself a shot of confidence to boost. I was surprised that she said yes. On the way to the date I kept pondering why she agreed to go out with a guy like me so after the date I struck up a conversation where I can slip that question in. She told me that “it wasn’t all about looks as long as he has a good personality and is comfortable with himself”. What I took from that and am sharing with you is that even when I doubted myself, in the end it all came down to self-confidence.

   To summarize: 

• Be confident in yourself and your body, just don’t confuse it with arrogance
• Understand that the image of a perfect body is just a marketing fabrication
• Only you are your own worst critic
• Going to the gym is a way to stay fit and maintain a healthy lifestyle; not to get “ripped” and “jacked”. 
• If you have a partner that you’re self-conscious about revealing your body to just remember that they are with you for who you are. (Plus it’s not that hard to picture what’s under the shirt for them to realize what’s under)

Cheers,
Dave & Jess